Bangladesh bride walks to groom’s home in stand for women’s rights

Tariqul Islam (right) and bride Khadiza Akter Khushi pose for a photo during their wedding in Meherpur — Image caption Newly-weds Khadiza Akter Khushi and Tariqul Islam broke with ancient tradition during their wedding

When 19-year-old Khadiza Akter Khushi led hundreds of people to the home of her soon-to-be husband, she didn’t do it for her guests.

She did it for all the Bangladeshi women she hoped would follow in her footsteps.

The walk is thought to be a first in a country where, for centuries, the opposite has happened: men have walked to the homes of their brides on their wedding day.

“If boys can bring girls to marriage, why can’t girls?” she asked BBC Bengali in the days after her wedding to Tariqul Islam had gone viral.

But it has both inspired and horrified. One man suggested the couple and their families should be beaten with slippers.

For Khadiza and her husband it was, quite simply, the right thing to do.

“Tradition is not the issue here,” she told the BBC. “It is a matter of women’s rights. Today, if a girl goes to marry a boy, then no one is harmed.

“Instead, abuse of women will decrease, women will get their dignity. No one will be less than the other.”

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Image caption They hope they will be the first of many

The couple were aware of the resistance to the marriage, held in a rural region next to the border with India last Saturday. Even members of their own families were not initially keen.

But Tariqul, 27, says they eventually came around. After all, they were doing nothing wrong.

“Many marry in court, many marry in the mosque. We were married according to religion,” the newly-wed explained.

“There was a Kazi [marriage register], witnesses. That’s how the marriage was registered. That’s the formality of marriage. That’s exactly what we did.

“It doesn’t matter what people think, what they say. Some people will think differently, everybody is entitled to their opinion.”

An ancient tradition turned on its head

by Sanjana Chowdhury, BBC Bengali

According to tradition here, the groom and his relatives go to the house of the bride, where the marriage and celebrations will take place, before the bride says goodbye to her family and goes to her husband’s house.

It has happened like this since ancient times.

But in Meherpur, a district in western Bangladesh, something unique has taken place: here, the bride came with her family to the groom’s house to marry, and afterwards the groom moved to the wife’s home.

The significance of this cannot be understated: for many men, this would be considered humiliating. Some people would even call it outrageous.

This wouldn’t even happen in the cities of Bangladesh, let alone a small village. This couple have started out their married life showing great courage.

Despite their confidence, it was a brave decision. Bangladesh has made great strides towards equality in recent years, and is the highest ranked country in South Asia when it comes to gender equality, according to the World Economic Forum.

But serious issues remain. The death of Nusrat Jahan Rafi – who, at 19, was the same age as the bride – made headlines around the world. She was allegedly burned alive after filing a complaint for sexual harassment against her headmaster.

Meanwhile, the United Nations says around two-thirds of women who marry will experience violence at the hands of their partners, with half reporting assaults in the last year.

And while the position of women is improving in areas like education, marriage laws in the Muslim-majority country have been criticised by women’s rights groups as restrictive and discriminatory.